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5 To 7: For the Hopeless Romantics

Most people who know me probably won’t consider me a romantic type of guy. But I’m actually a closet hopeless romantic. And I say that like it’s a bad thing.

Hopeless romantics are hopeless for a reason. We idealize love and focus on relationships more than the actual individuals. So when we do get into relationships and it starts to not match our unrealistic standards, we get disillusioned and distance ourselves ASAP. These usually lead to a lot of abrupt breakups or suddenly turning “cold fish”.

I’ve dated my fair share of people like that. Some of them just ended the relationship without good reason and to this day, I will never find out why. I can just assume I wasn’t the type of guy they wanted or the relationship we had didn’t match their vision.

It’s a tragic flaw and one I’ll have to live with. But I’m coping with it and helping my soulmate just the same.

5 to 7: the Perfect Movie for Hopeless Romantics

When a friend of mine mentioned this movie to me, I had my doubts. I might’ve been a hopeless romantic but watching romantic movies or romcoms (romantic comedies) was not something I did a lot. But I gave this movie a shot on Netflix.

Right from the start I felt a strong connection with the film. It was as if it was written for someone like me.

The film is about Brian Bloom (Anton Yelchin), a young aspiring novelist living in New York City who meets Arielle (Berenice Marlohe), an older French woman. They begin a love affair during the specific times of five o’clock to seven o’clock because according to Arielle, it’s the only time she is available.

*SPOILERS BELOW*

It turns out Arielle is married and the husband, Valery (Lambert Wilson) is aware of their affair. Brian, like most western guys, feels uneasy about the relationship but falls in love with Arielle so much he even goes beyond the rules and asks her to marry him.

Arielle accepts Brian’s proposal but soon breaks the relationship because of the vow she made Valery. Inspired by his breakup with Arielle, Brian publishes his first novel, “The Mermaid”. Years pass and the two cross paths again. Brian is now married with a child and Arielle is still with Valery.

Just before the film ends, Arielle discreetly shows Brian that she is wearing the ring he gave her when he proposed signifying a happy ending. Sort of.

*END SPOILERS*

The film is a beautifully flawed film. There are many things about it that probably won’t resonate with the audience beginning with the premise, the dialogue that seems more suited for a book or for theatre, and the stereotyping of North American and European attitudes towards relationships. 

Arielle and Brian are like characters straight out of a novel (via tribecafilm.com)

Arielle and Brian are like characters straight out of a novel (via tribecafilm.com)

But the chemistry between the two leads, the witty dialogue, and limited but charming performances from Frank Langella and Glenn Close as Brian’s quirky parents make this movie one to watch among romance or rom-com fans. And aspiring writers too.

Brian and Arielle may be soulmates because of the strong connection they have with each other but just because they don’t end up married together it doesn’t mean their relationship was tragic. Not at all.

It was for the better they didn’t end up together. Because they kept their relationship limited, they were able to enjoy it in its purity. It never left the honeymoon phase and while it never got the chance to grow and mature and really test them, it also never degenerated from the trying pressures of a married life.

It reminds me so much of the relationship I have with my soulmate. While we have a very deep (almost psychic-like) bond, we agreed to not go beyond friendship and as such, the love we feel for each other feels purer. It feels less selfish. I want her happiness like she wants mine. She hugs me, caresses me and soothes me with all the affection I could ever ask for in a woman and yet I am not left feeling like I need more like a starved child that just had his first bite of a burger.

Like a breath freshener commercial (via theage.com.au)

Like a breath freshener commercial (via theage.com.au)

Love is after all, not something you can control. It’s not something you can quantify or put stipulations on. Love just happens. The movie beautifully expresses the idea that two people can fall in love with others despite being in a committed relationship and it doesn’t devalue or tarnish their relationship at all.

This movie will go down as one of my top-five all-time favourites. And it’s a personal favourite because if I look at it objectively it’s nothing too special but the themes really touched me and inspired me as a writer.

“The world will surprise you with its grace if you let it”.